Wednesday, July 18, 2007

Am I too mean?

Do you/would you let your family members, relatives or friends to bring your kid(s) out when you or your spouse doesn't tag along? How much do you trust them in taking good care of your kid(s) in the public?

I've encountered the following situations recently:
1) One evening when I reached home after work, maid told me that my sister-in-law has brought Dillon out, driving him back to her in-law's place, alone. Knowing that her car doesn't have a child car seat, I was so worried how she manage to drive safely with Dillon around, plus she is pregnant also. Then my husband called & told her to send Dillon back immediately. When she reached home, I can see that Dillon is sitting in the front passenger seat, without seat belt. Of course I was very furious for her foolish act and I asked my hubby to tell her never ever do this again.

2) On another evening, my father-in-law brought Dillon out. I thought he brought him for a walk nearby because that is what he does everyday & I do appreciate that. After about 15 minutes, I saw them both came back, in my father-in-law's motorbike. Then I asked him if he brought Dillon for a ride and he said yes, it was only a short distance to the grocery shop . Well, it is not the matter of distance but to put Dillon in the front basket of the bike, without a helmet, is already a very dangerous act. I wasn't happy about it and I told it to my father-in-law directly. (Later on my maid told me that this is not the 1st time Dillon has gone for a ride, arghh!!)

I don't know what do they think about me, esp. my father-in-law, he might think that I was rude to tell him that and my sister-in-law might think I was too mean but I couldn't care less. As a mother, I have the responsibilities & every right to do so to protect my kids.

18 comments:

mommy of 2 angels said...

aiyooo pengsan...summore in-law..gotta be sooooo diplomatic (like walking on egg shells)...ask ur hubby to TELL them in the FACE lor...u cannot say too much...

esther said...

i dont think that you're mean and they should understand that you're concern about Dillon's safety. Take good care of yourself, ya!

Anggie's journel said...

Tv advertisement also show alot on danger by not wearing helmet.. even was a short distance.
BTW, i agreed with mommy of2 angels, better to ask ur hubby to say this out , and point out the reason and danger to them. We (daughter in law) sometime hardly to said, worry will say in a wrong manner... getting worst.

Mummy to QiQi said...

u are right, it is definitely too dangerous....as a mum of the child, u have got the right to say it!

jazzmint said...

aiyo......go for bike ride!!! OMG...that's a bit too much leh.so dangerous

chooi peng said...

maybe u have to ask them to watch the TV ads of a guy riding an motorbike without a helmet, although it was a short distance journey!

KK & WS said...

i know what you mean...my MIL also said no need to put Ern on car seat when it is short distance.

I just ignored and put Ern in.

AnNeBbYiNg ^aka^ Mrs. Cheng said...

hi AnNeBbYiNg here... pls tag me along ya.. thanks...

1+2mom said...

Better ask your hubby do the dirty work..hehe..son said 1 time better then ourself say it.

Luckily my mother in law was the careful type so i'm ok for that, she even dun let her children ride motorbite so i wont worry so much.

The New Parent said...

Hi K--I had a similar incident with one of the babysitters. Took my daughter, without asking in her car, without a carseat!

She doesn't work for us anymore.

Much too dangerous and the parents should always be asked first.

Good post, thank you.

BabyBooner said...

I agree, this is a good post. Makes me think about what I'd do if all these things happen to me.

Honestly, Karen, you're absolutely right to protect your dillon this way. I'd do the same too. but at the same time have to be super-duper diplomatic because in-laws, right?! thats the difficult part. so... yeah.. hubby has to be the one saying the strongggg words.

good luck in the future

yatie'scorner said...

HI Karen...

wah so dangerous..fyi i never let my kkids out with someone else ... without me me tag along or without their carseat.

I think u not mean, it's our responsibility to tell them.

TheBlueRanger said...

it's too dangerous! if you keep quiet, i'm sure they will do it again.

Lian said...

Totally understand where you are coming from. Your child is your flesh and blood. Unfortunately sometimes it's very difficult to be nice and be firm at the same time.

cairo's mommy said...

i support u 100%! those ppl are too reckless or simply not informed of the latest traffic statistics!

they might've raised a dozen kids that way but i'm NOT gonna buy dat BS! I don't have 11 spares like they do!!!

tell them it is against the law in spore to ferry kids in car w/o car seat!

Vivian Wong said...

i wont let my kids go out without me or my mum, sometime hubby also 'cincai' and close one eye, even when we go to dinner with in-law, they like to bring my son to a walk but i told them better not, just to respect them, i just tell them a lot is mosquito around...i cant trust my in-law's family (so sorry to say that), just dun want something bad happen to my kids.

huisia said...

oh gosh,what a dangerous scene there..
you did well, if i were you, i would do the same

janet said...

hi! i think you're not mean. it's just normal for parents to think of their kid's safety.